The sorrow inside Is it worse to feel Sorrow or to feel Nothing?

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The sorrow inside Is it worse to feel Sorrow or to feel Nothing?

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It is worse to feel nothing.brbrThe pain of sorrow is not to make you sad, remember. Thats where people go on missing.... This pain is just to make you more alertbecause people become alert only when the arrow goes deep into their heart and wounds them. Otherwise they dont become alert. When life is easy, comfortable, convenient, who cares? Who bothers to become alert? When a friend dies, there is a possibility. When your womanman leaves you alonethose dark nights, you are lonely. You have loved that womanman so much and you have staked all, and then suddenly one day shehe is gone. Crying in your loneliness, those are the occasions when, if you use them, you can become aware. The arrow is hurting it can be used. The pain is not to make you miserable, the pain is to make you more aware! And when you are aware, misery disappears.brbrLife consists of sorrow too. And sorrow is also beautiful it has its own depth, its own delicacy, its own deliciousness, its own taste. A man is poorer if he has not known sorrow he is impoverished, very much impoverished. His laughter will be shallow, his laughter will not have depth, because depth comes only through sadness. A man who knows sadness, if he laughs, his laughter will have depth. His laughter will have something of his sadness too, his laughter will be more colorful.brbrThe man who cannot laugh deeply is the man who has repressed sorrow he cannot go deep because he is afraid of sorrow. Even if he goes deep into his laughter, there is a fear that sorrow may surface, may bubble up. He has to be always on guard. So please, whatsoever the situation is, start allowing it. If you are sad, you are sad. This is what God means for you at this moment at least he wants you to be sad. So be true...be sad! Live this sadness. And if you can live this sorrow a different quality of happiness will arise in you it will not be a repression of sadness, it will be beyond sorrow.brbrRemember, if you have not known sorrow together with happiness you have not known anything yet. Then your happiness is superficial your sorrow is also superficial. Then you have been living on the surface then you have known only the waves you have not known the depth of the ocean that you are.brbrYou will be surprised if you can meditate on sorrow, sorrow will reveal its secrets to you and they are of tremendous value. And sorrow, once it has revealed its secrets to you, will disappear. Its work is done, its message delivered. And when sorrow disappears, joy arises. Joy arises only when sorrow disappears out of meditation there is no other way. Joy wells up when you have broken the ice of sorrow that surrounds it. In fact, sorrow is like the shell that surrounds the seed it is protective, it is not the enemy. Once the seed has dropped its protection, is surrendered into the soil, the shell has died, only then the sprout is born.brbrAnanda, the cousin and disciple of Gautam Buddha. He was at Buddhas side constantly, attending to his every need for fortytwo years. When Buddha died, the story is told that Ananda was still at his side, weeping. The other disciples chastised him for his misunderstanding Buddha had died absolutely fulfilled he should be rejoicing. But Ananda said, quotYou misunderstand. Im weeping not for him but for myself, because for all these years I have been constantly at his side but I have still not attained.quot Ananda stayed awake for the whole night, meditating deeply and feeling his pain and sorrow. By the morning, it is said, he was enlightened. brbrTimes of great sorrow have the potential to be times of great transformation. But in order for transformation to happen we must go deep, to the very roots of our pain, and experience it as it is, without blame or selfpity.brbrGod Bless